王娜的回答：介我拿手～～～ When the conversation comes to love, it always raise the biggest emotion, reaction and passion.But,What is love?"Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person. "This is how many people approach a relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it.The key word is passivity. Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." (That was back in 1956 -- chances are he'd be even more pessimistic today.)So what is real, lasting love?Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.LOVE IS A CHOICEIf love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen -- you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily.ACTIONS AFFECT FEELINGSNow that you're feeling so warmly toward the entire human race, how can you deepen your love for someone? The way God created us, actions affect our feelings most. For example, if you want to become more compassionate, thinking compassionate thoughts may be a start, but giving tzedaka (charity) will get you there. Likewise, the best way to feel loving is to be loving -- and that means giving. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving. 1. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person. 2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well. 3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally. 4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way. 5. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them. 6. Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love. You must love yourself before you can love another. But before you can love yourself, you must know and understand yourself profoundly. This deep understanding of yourself will automatically lead you to love yourself (since you will become aware of your divine essence) and you will also love every other person at that same moment (because you will recognize that same divine essence in every other person). The above is what I think about LOVE. 毅雅的回答：介我拿手～～～ When the conversation comes to love, it always raise the biggest emotion, reaction and passion.But,What is love?"Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person. "This is how many people approach a relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it.The key word is passivity. Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." (That was back in 1956 -- chances are he'd be even more pessimistic today.)So what is real, lasting love?Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.LOVE IS A CHOICEIf love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen -- you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily.ACTIONS AFFECT FEELINGSNow that you're feeling so warmly toward the entire human race, how can you deepen your love for someone? The way God created us, actions affect our feelings most. For example, if you want to become more compassionate, thinking compassionate thoughts may be a start, but giving tzedaka (charity) will get you there. Likewise, the best way to feel loving is to be loving -- and that means giving. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving. 1. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person. 2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well. 3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally. 4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way. 5. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them. 6. Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love. You must love yourself before you can love another. But before you can love yourself, you must know and understand yourself profoundly. This deep understanding of yourself will automatically lead you to love yourself (since you will become aware of your divine essence) and you will also love every other person at that same moment (because you will recognize that same divine essence in every other person). The above is what I think about LOVE. _煙ｄё菋檤的回答：人生观: focus on these 4 gifts and the world will seem like a much brighter place: 1. your buddy network. friends are there to comfort and guide you every step of the way. they also deal with trials every now and then, like you. it is adventurously therapeutic for you to walk together, communicate authentically, and support each other through times of difficulty. 2. your beautiful world. stop and take time to appreciate the trees, the birds, and the wind blowing in your face. look around you. it’s a magnificent world that’s available to you 24 hours a day—for free. the simplest things that can make you happy are around you, right now. 3. your ability to work. even if you’re currently out of work, there are opportunities, and you will seize one eventually. it’s always empowering to realize you have options to earn and take care of yourself. 4. your opportunity to travel. it’s a big world out there and you have the chance to explore new sights and different experiences. the cultures of other countries will leave you mesmerized with how congruent or vastly different we all are, even though we live under the same blue sky. and if you can’t travel far, you can still venture to unfamiliar places and experience something new. 爱情观: as an online dating coach, i hear about singles' flirting frustrations daily and in bulk -- and of course, help them through it all. the one thing i consistently observe is that dating is just as much about mindset as it is action. your attitude on love impacts your experiences more than you know. receiving a message from an undesirable match can make you feel less hopeful. a few failed dates in a row can affect your confidence. and seeing friends pair up while you're left solo can make your heart feel a little bit more lonely. i recently read amazing things will happen: a real-world guide on achieving success and happiness, a book with so many lessons that can help shift your perspective in your dating life -- and beyond. here are my favorite few lines from (the amazing) c.c. chapman and how his new release can apply to your love life: "the sooner you realize that the journey is part of the enjoyment, the more fun your adventure will be." it's easy to get discouraged in the dating world, especially since when you take your love life digital, a lot of singles get focused on "results." but just because you can quantify your prospects doesn't mean that the experience of finding your "one" is about numbers. remember that dating is a journey without a time limit, and relationships don't always fit neatly into an inbox. "the worst anyone can ever say is no. but you'll never hear yes if you don't ask." so many online daters, particularly women, tell me that they don't want to message matches -- they'd rather others do the approaching. this applies to offline approaching, too: if you don't start a conversation, you'll never know the potential someone has. take control of your heart by remembering that it's not who says "hi" to you that matters, but ultimately, who you're genuinely interested in, regardless of who does the approaching. c.c. reminds us that fear of rejection and lack of action can be major dating debilitations. 分别抄上几句吧,实在不知您的英语水平,望采纳 |
